Recently, Anna and I went on our first road trip/holiday since we were 18 and 22! It was such a wonderful time out from the busy-ness of motherhood and a wonderful “time in” with my sister. It was also a good opportunity to detox from all the little niggles of day-to-day life and just spend time talking about creative and positive things, enjoying simple pleasures, leaving the TV off and eating nourishing, delicious food. We took baby Rhys with us (he was an honorary girl for the weekend).
When *Ren* my eldest was born, the thought of doing something for myself never even entered my mind, let alone going away somewhere!! I had set such high standards for myself as a mother and didn’t allow myself any time out so that I, literally, had nothing left in the tank. Back then, I didn’t know how to nurture myself or even give myself permission to nurture myself, I just kept going, all under the guise of being a devoted mother.
It wasn’t until Anna moved here and gently pointed out that it’s also important that I look after myself in order to be the best mother and person that I can be, that I gradually started to realise that I too needed to take time out. I remember the first time I went for a massage and left Ren at home with Anna and felt racked with mother guilt and anxiety, as if Ren somehow just wouldn’t be okay without me. Of course he was fine, more than fine, he hardly noticed I was gone!
I’ve definitely grown and relaxed a lot more these days, partly because I’m more confident being a mother the second time around, but more importantly because I’m no longer so hard on myself. I really relished my time away from home last weekend. I love my home, my husband, my toddler and my fur babies, but I also hardly ever get a chance to have an uninterrupted conversation with my sister, so it was amazing just to be with my own thoughts and with her.
Wherever you are and whatever you’re doing, give yourself permission to nurture yourself in some way. It doesn’t have to be some big thing like going away (for Anna and I this was a special treat) but something that is about honouring yourself.
I know as a mum it’s hard enough to find time to pee, let alone do something for yourself, but here are some ideas that you might want to try:
- Run a nice bath (with some epsom salts or Magnesium bath salts which are great for cleansing your chakras and soothing muscles), light some candles and just relax for a little while.
- Exfoliate and moisturise your face with your favourite product. I’ve started washing my face and moisturising in the morning in the shower and at night before bed and it has made a huge difference to me!
- If you’re in to mists/sprays, spritz yourself before you start your day. I like this as it only takes a few seconds but it lifts my energy almost instantly.
- Buy yourself a colouring book and some pencils and colour in. I kid you not, it is the most therapeutic thing! Anna gifted me this stunning colouring book by Johanna Basford for adults called The Secret Garden and I am loving colouring it in. It’s a mini meditation!
- Play your favourite song and groove or sing to it for a few minutes.
I’ve learnt that time out is about making a mental decision to do something for yourself, that brings you back in to your heart space and centre.
Love LJ x