We are huge fans of Sonia Donaldson of Natural New Age Mum so were incredibly honoured to be invited to write a guest article for her amazing site! You can read our article on “heart centred living” over on Sonia’s site now just click HERE. Happy heart centred living! Anna & LJ xx
I’ve always felt that authentic communication must come from the heart; one must communicate to others from one’s heart space and hopefully that message is received in their heart space. I suppose the term *heart space* might sound some what wishy washy, but all it really means is that one’s communication must come with love, one must be one’s true self (free of all the crappy stuff we pad around ourselves in order to be liked or please others), be vulnerable without barriers and share one’s truth. It sounds SO simple yet many of us find this so very hard to do because of the vulnerability it entails. The word *vulnerable* comes from the late latin *vulnerablis* meaning *injurious, wounding*. Naturally many of us will do anything (suppress emotions, ignore issues) to avoid feeling this way, stripped bare of all our protective barriers, our projected self image (stoical, totally chillaxed, too cool for school, unshakeable…sound familiar?) to stand there as our true selves (scared, fearful of rejection and judgement).
Sadly, this isn’t going to be a post about that earworm of a song *let it go* from Frozen (still can’t make up my mind whether I love it or not). Nope, instead I’ve been pondering and mulling over the potential pressure one can feel from social media (in particular) to feel happy, accomplished, productive. I’m absolutely NOT knocking happiness or anyone trying to focus on being happy (which I totally celebrate and I love that 100 days of happy project) but what I have noticed is a tendency, particularly on social media sites such as FB, Instragram etc, for people to present their *best face/best life* so to speak. Of course, this is totally understandable and natural human behaviour not to want to expose one’s vulnerabilities to the world and equally the choice not to is also totally valid and fine. I do wonder, however, how many of us forget that this is in fact what most people are doing when posting to social media sites and that, these moments are but mere snapshots of …
Sometimes, life in the 21st Century can be mightily chaotic, sweeping one up in a whirlwind of things that need to be done, places to go, people to see (I call this the *to do tornado*) and it’s not terribly feasible (for many) to avoid this raging storm because, unfortunately, it’s just everyday life in our current society. From time to time I’m sure many weigh up the prospect of *escape* as a tempting idea, but personally, I don’t think it’s the answer as one doesn’t want to live life on the run….so what can one do? My personal belief is that in every chaotic moment there is a place of calm “the eye of the storm”, so to speak, where all is quiet and peaceful despite the perceived storm raging around. One’s logic mind says *there’s no way you’re going to find calm in all this mess* and seemingly provides ample evidence of one’s emotions being so firmly triggered by the storm that the impossibility of it seems concrete, but in reality it’s really quite simple….breathing!
Someone once asked me, “how have you become so happy?“, I couldn’t immediately offer up an answer, but I did sit and think about it. Obviously, most people aren’t happy ALL of the time (including myself) but, personally, I believe that happiness is a choice. You might think “oh come on, how can you be happy if something awful has happened!” but every situation you face in life is a choice…not a choice whether it occurs or not but a choice whether to define yourself on the basis of that situation or whether to see it for what it is, acknowledge how it made you feel and then unravel any mistaken beliefs about yourself, life or other people you brought out of that situation and, once free from those mistaken beliefs, choose to be happy.