All posts tagged: love yourself


Friend comes from the old English word “freond” meaning *to love*. Similarly the German word “Freundin”, the Dutch word “Vriend”, the French word “Ami”, the Spanish word “Amigo” and Italian word “Amico”, all mean *to love*, so that little word “friend” is synonymous with love. We often think of our relationship with others when we think of *friendship* (I know we do) but can forget that the most intimate relationship we are in is with ourselves. It’s so easy to have one rule for how we treat our friends/loved ones and another for how we treat ourselves. How often do we treat ourselves in ways we would never dream of treating someone we love? Maybe we can re-frame/re-label that concept of “I/me” as *my best friend*, shifting our perspective of ourselves towards that of someone to love, someone deserving of love just as we would our dearest of friends? “You are reminded to treat yourself with compassion, kindness, love and respect, as you would your dearest of friends. You are supported to be mindful of how you speak of and to …

You are a reality-creator

We (LJ and I) often find ourselves meditating on and discussing topics such as the nature of reality because, instinctively, we feel that this is intrinsically linked with unlocking and re-harnessing our true power as creators of reality. What is reality? We can’t answer that question with any degree of scientific certainty (we are not scientists) and neither can our modern day scientists, but our personal intuitive sense aligns with the view point put forward by the founding father of quantum theory, Max Planck and pioneering physicist Sir James Jean: “I regard consciousness as fundamental. I regard matter as derivative from consciousness.” ~ Max Planck “The stream of knowledge is heading toward a non-mechanical reality; the universe begins to look more like a great thought than like a great machine. Mind no longer appears to be an accidental intruder into the realm of matter, we ought rather hail it as the creator and governor of the realm of matter. Get over it, and accept the inarguable conclusion. The universe is immaterial-mental and spiritual.” ~ Sir James Jean What we feel and sense to …

Learning to embrace my Yin

I’ve spent much of my life hunkering down in my Yang (masculine) energy because it felt safer than being in my Yin (feminine), which felt too vulnerable and scary. In fact, I suspect this fear of Yin has followed me through from past lives and my mother even thought I might be a boy when I was as yet unborn (but that is another story). Over the years my Yang-ness has received a fair bit of external validation, particularly as our society tends to applaud, favour (if not worship) Yang qualities: activity, speed, efficiency, youth, physical strength, power. Might it be that society itself is out of balance?

Selflessness vs Selfishness

Last week I found myself breathing a HUGE sigh of relief as my meditation teacher took us through a beautiful healing meditation for others and more importantly OURSELVES. As I felt the warm waves of brilliant white light energy fill up my heart and spread throughout my body, it really hit home just how much I needed it and I also realised just how difficult I find it to receive! Over the past year or so I’ve found myself increasingly drawn to the healing modalities, I’ve also noticed that those with an inclination towards healing work (like myself) have a tendency to allow the care of others to overtake the care of themselves. They are often referred to as *selfless* which is defined as being: “concerned more with the needs and wishes of others than with one’s own; unselfish” In our society being *selfless* tends to be placed up there on the high altar of *the right way to be* whilst being *selfish* is deemed the darth vadar (evil) to selflessness’ skywalker (good). Reality, however, is rarely so black and …

Can a leopard change its spots?

Or in my case can a panda change it’s habits? (panda is my totem animal in case you wondered at my bizarre choice). Since moving to Melbourne just over a year ago, I’ve been faced with the alarming realisation that there are many things about my habits, mannerisms and personality that don’t serve me for my highest good. Part of this realisation is from being physically near my twin soul (my sister LJ) which, as I’ve touched on in a previous post, is akin to having a mirror held up to myself from which I cannot look away. On being slapped in the face by the trout of truth (my version of a wet fish), my ever-present logic brain kicked-in to make (what it thought was) a list of all the things I needed to change, which felt depressingly long!